Friendship is a sheltering tree – Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Are you a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime?  Pay attention to what you read.  After you read this, you will know the reason it was sent to you!

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.  When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They may have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are!  They are there for the reason you need them to be.  Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die. What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it!  It is real!  But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. 

The above text was given to me by a friend many moons ago and it struck a chord with me.  I don’t know who wrote it but I have seen it repeated many times over the years, in blogs and websites etc. so it obviously strikes a chord with many people.

When we bond with someone, we hope that the bond stays strong for a long time.  What we don’t know is how long we will get to be in that person’s life and vice versa.  That is the great friendship lottery we freely enter into!

I have had people come into my life for a reason, a season and most beneficial of all, a lifetime.  I have been sad when people have walked away from me and perhaps others might have been when I abandoned their friendship.  Sometimes I have had to do that because the friendship had become toxic and I have a strong example of that happening with one person on two occasions.  We can blame many things for a friendship fizzing out (work, family etc.).  Sometimes it can be nothing at all and the friendship naturally dies.

I don’t bear any ill towards those who I am no longer friends with, things happen and people change.  Perhaps they were simply angered by something I said or did.  I know that the person I referred to above has said nasty things about me to other people because I ended our friendship.  Hopefully, in time he will come to understand my reasons and accept that he is in part, responsible for my reaction.

My closest friend, P, is someone I have known for 30 years now, which is a lifetime in itself!  We may not see each other that often and we rarely talk on the telephone but we are both comfortable knowing that we have each other.  She is not the sort of person to send slushy stuff but her birthday and Christmas cards and emails to me often reflect friendship and how happy she is to have me as one of hers.  I would be very upset to lose her and I have to admit, that I would have been cross if she had not chosen me as one of her bridesmaids or one of her daughter’s godmothers!

We get angry with people along the way and declare that we never want to see them again but you know what, life really is too short to bear grudges or hate people, especially once the initial anger and hurt has gone, and I know that someday there is a strong possibility that I will be friends again with people I had parted ways with previously.

P.S.  I still haven’t come to a final decision re the pen friend I refer to in this post.  Perhaps she falls into the Reason category and our acquaintance will no longer continue.

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3 thoughts on “Friendship is a sheltering tree – Samuel Taylor Coleridge

  1. Life… Yes, friends and people come and go, and the going always leaves a slight feeling of sadness.

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