I don’t tend listen to other people’s conversations when I am travelling to and from work as I am normally plugged in to my music. However, recently as I was sitting trying to unravel my ear phones, (why do they always do that? Honestly, I could lay them in a straight line and they would still end up in a knot at the end of the day!) I happened to notice two girls, both in their early 20’s it seemed, talking about some guy that one of them fancied at her office and my interest was piqued!
This young lass sounded like she was head over heels about this person and was doing all she could to make it known that she had a massive crush on him without actually saying anything to him.
She said that she would make sure she was dressed nicely and show a bit of cleavage, laugh at his jokes, flirt with him, always be on hand to help with a problem, make definite eye contact with him and often touch him lightly on the shoulder.
As I carried on listening she went on to say that she always accidently on purpose let him catch her looking at him and she would catch him doing the same. Whenever he came over to her desk for something, she said that he would bend close to her and put his hand on her chair, that he talked closely to her in her ear and that he flirted with her as well.
Then she talked about a colleague’s birthday party that they went to recently and had to dress up for as it was in a club. She had to get ready in the office as they were going straight from work and when she came back, she went to get something out of the cupboard near his desk and he turned round to look at her and complimented her on how she looked. She had been to the club before so as she chatted about the place, he listened and looked directly at her then she said that he put his hands over his crotch, as if to hide whatever might be stirring in that area! Something she said he had never done before when talking to her!
(I have to say that her friend was continuously interjecting with “he definitely fancies you!” and “he totally has the hots for you!” and other such comments…)
At this point, the train pulled into my station so sadly I had to get up and leave but to me, it sounded like that there was a definite chemistry there but also a fear in case she had completely got the wrong end of the stick and would ruin everything if she told him the truth only to have him say that he was just being friendly and didn’t see her like that.
On my way home I wondered: what are the signs about this sort of thing, how do you know for sure if you are reading things right? How do you know the difference between someone being a friend as opposed to liking you as potential boyfriend/girlfriend material? How do you be rational about this, especially when you are in the throws of a secret passion?
Questions, so many questions, but now I want your opinion about this and what you felt if you have experienced this. Did it ever turn out to your advantage or fizzle out into nothingness? Did it end as a one-night stand, even? Did you just continue dancing around each other in a daze of mixed emotions or did you do something about it?
I would be interested to hear your thoughts!